Lilithfoxx

Marketer. Author. Educator.

Lilithfoxx (she/her) is a BIPOC, queer, neurodivergent, kinky and polyamorous
sexuality and inclusivity educator.

She holds multiple certifications in sexuality and consent education, and teaches in-person and virtual workshops on sexuality and inclusivity at conferences and organizations worldwide.
A drawing of Lilithfoxx. She is wearing a black lace corset and fish nets, while smiling, winking, and holding a purple dildo in her hand. She has long, dark, curly hair.

Lilithfoxx

Marketer. Author. Educator.

Marketer. Author. Educator.

Lilithfoxx (she/her) is a BIPOC, queer, neurodivergent, kinky and polyamorous
sexuality and inclusivity educator.

She holds multiple certifications in sexuality and consent education, and teaches in-person and virtual workshops on sexuality and inclusivity at conferences and organizations worldwide.
A drawing of Lilithfoxx. She is wearing a black lace corset and fish nets, while smiling, winking, and holding a purple dildo in her hand. She has long, dark, curly hair.

LilithFoxx

Marketer. Author. Educator.

Lilithfoxx (she/her) is a BIPOC, queer, neurodivergent, kinky and polyamorous
sexuality and inclusivity educator.

She holds multiple certifications in sexuality and consent education, and teaches in-person and virtual workshops on sexuality and inclusivity at conferences and organizations worldwide.
A drawing of Lilithfoxx. She is wearing a black lace corset and fish nets, while smiling, winking, and holding a purple dildo in her hand. She has long, dark, curly hair.

Services

Coaching

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One-on-one, couples, and group coaching for intimacy, pleasure, dating, relationships, communication and more!

Coaching

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Learn to explore pleasure, polyamory, kink, sex, intimacy, dating, relationships and situationships.

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Workshops

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As a professional educator, Lilithfoxx can design workshops and classes to suit specific needs, communities, and events.

Workshops

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View her current classes & workshops, or message her to develop a customized course!

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Consulting

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Lilithfoxx provides assistance with developing consent policy, and DEI strategies at the organizational level.

Consulting

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Develop community resources and policies that are transformative for the community, not just restorative.

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Services

Coaching

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One-on-one, couples, and group coaching for intimacy, pleasure, dating, relationships, communication and more!

Coaching

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Learn to explore pleasure, polyamory, kink, sex, intimacy, dating, relationships and situationships.

Learn More

Workshops

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As a professional educator, Lilithfoxx can design workshops and classes to suit specific needs, communities, and events.

Workshops

-

View her current classes & workshops, or message her to develop a customized course!

Learn More

Consulting

-

Lilithfoxx provides assistance with developing consent policy, and DEI strategies at the organizational level.

Consulting

-

Develop community resources and policies that are transformative for the community, not just restorative.

Learn More
800 +
Hours of Education
1
Plants
10000
White cis-men pissed off
800 +
Hours of Education
1
Plants
10000
White cis-men pissed off

Class List

Social media marketing is complicated enough without the added risks and censorship that adult-oriented brands face. So, how do you market yourself when you’re constantly at risk of account deletion and censorship? 

Lilithfoxx will draw on her years of experience in senior-level marketing for Fortune 500 companies to help you build a low-risk, high-reward social media strategy that works FOR you, not the other way around.

In this class, you’ll learn:

  • FOSTA/SESTA – an overview of how it impacts adult-oriented brands and their marketing.
  • Social media platforms – which ones to use, how their algorithms work, and how they target and enforce bans.
  • Content creation, optimizing your workflows, and automating the tasks that suck.
  • When to post, how to post, hashtag strategies and best practices specific to your brand and target audience.

This workshop is geared towards kink and adult-oriented brands, but is suitable for businesses and brands of all types. Concepts covered are applicable to brands of any industry.

This class will teach actionable steps to create safer spaces for BIPOC – because a diversity statement isn’t enough.

This class is taught alongside NordStar, an internationally licensed professional mental health practitioner with over a decade of experience in organizational psychology. Lilithfoxx and NordStar first presented this class as a Non-black POC panel in 2020, and have restructured the class to be taught by NordStar and LilithFoxx collaboratively. Since then, several dungeons around the world have utilized what they learned in the class to create safer and more inclusive spaces for BIPOC folx in their communities. Lilith and Nord share a passion for service and education to the community. They have dedicated their time, personal, and professional experiences to promoting inclusivity for BIPOC folx in the global kink community.

Personal experiences may be shared, however the primary goal is teaching attendees what specifically they can do NOW in their communities to create positive change.

When it comes to kink negotiations, neurodiversity yields some unique challenges.

This class will discuss ways to negotiate play and dynamics with neurodiversity in mind! Lilith draws on her personal experience as a queer POC cis-woman with ADHD and trauma to teach you tips and tricks for negotiating play and communicating limits in ways that work with neurodiversity, not against it.

  • How neurodiversity impacts communication and negotiations – and why just talking about it doesn’t always work.
  • Adapting your negotiations and communication methods to be inclusive of neurodivergent folx – including written negotiations.
  • Bridging the gap between written and verbal communication.
  • Non-verbal communication methods and cues to look out for before, during, and after play.
  • How to support neurodivergent partners during scenes and negotiations.
  • How to ask for support as a neurodivergent person from neurotypicals or different flavors of “neurospicy”.

This class is suitable for anyone – regardless of whether they are neurodivergent or have a partner who is.

No matter your level of experience with non-monogamy, “The Relationship Escalator” is bound to sneak up on you a time or two! But what if that’s not a bad thing?

Lilithfoxx has been a Non-hierarchal, Relationship Anarchist, Switchy Polyam for the better part of a decade. She’ll teach you how to avoid the fuckups and reframe The Escalator as a way to strengthen and build your non-monogamous relationships to stand the test of time.

Topics of discussion include:

  • “The Relationship Escalator” (TRE) –  what it is, how it can be problematic, and its unexpected perks.
  • How TRE can hide in plain sight and look different based on a number of factors – including kink, social and power differentials.
  • Setting goals in relationships and dynamics that are authentic to you and your partner(s).
  • Using TRE as a catalyst for positive change in relationships and communication.

This class is suitable for anyone, regardless of relationship orientation. Attendees will learn healthy ways to communicate needs and build relationships that are applicable to all styles of love and relationships.

This class takes a realistic approach to making long-distance dynamics work (or not).

This class is part 1 of a 2 part series on long-distance PE/AT dynamics. Each class will holistically discuss all of the topics, but will go into more specifics depending on the part.

Has work or life distanced you from your partner? It can be difficult to figure out how to strengthen and maintain a PE/AT dynamic when you’re separated by schedules, zip codes, or time zones. How often do you see each other? How do you play long distance? Will things ever be the same? Do you call it quits?

We’ll discuss ways to restructure and reframe your dynamic with the intentionality for mutual fulfillment. Topics of discussion include:

  • Developing long-term relationship longevity strategies.
  • Setting realistic time frames for visits and mitigating the drop after you leave.
  • Ways to play long distance that are equally sexy and satisfying.
  • Coping with “FOMO” of new play partners and events that you or your partner can’t attend together.
  • Creating realistic and kind exit-strategies for if the relationship isn’t working.

This class suitable for everyone – regardless of whether they’re in a long-distance PE/AT dynamic – as it will cover more nuanced and dynamic ways of communicating and negotiating with your partners.

This class takes a realistic approach to making long-distance dynamics work (or not).

This class is part 2 of a 2 part series on long-distance PE/AT dynamics. Each class will holistically discuss all of the topics, but will go into more specifics depending on the part.

Has work or life distanced you from your partner? It can be difficult to figure out how to strengthen and maintain a PE/AT dynamic when you’re separated by schedules, zip codes, or time zones. Do you remove protocols, change them, or add new ones? How do you do any of that without compromising the foundation your relationship was built on?

We’ll specifically discuss ways to restructure and reframe protocols and rituals with intentionality. Topics of discussion include:

  • Adapting existing protocols and creating new ones.
  • Navigating being part of different communities – together and separately.
  • Creating new strategies for differing levels of protocol for long distance and when you’re alone in a new community.
  • Ways to play and adhere to rituals and protocols long distance that are equally sexy and satisfying.

This class suitable for everyone – regardless of whether they’re in a long-distance PE/AT dynamic – as it will cover more nuanced and dynamic ways of communicating and negotiating with your partners.

In the context and presence of play, sexuality, and intimacy, it can be difficult to articulate exactly what your boundaries and desires are; You leave a lot to assumption, hormones, and trauma-responses. 

Is what you’re “consenting” to in the moment what you actually want? In this class, you’ll learn to complete an “intimacy inventory” that will help you have this conversation first and foremost with yourself. This trauma-informed approach to determining your needs and wants is applicable to intimacy, sexuality, kink, gender, relationships, and more!

Topics of discussion include:

  • Why negotiating or communicating boundaries mid-scene or in the moment can be problematic.
  • How to communicate effectively and avoid assumptions of understanding.
  • Trauma-responses, social and other factors that may compromise consent and effective communication.
  • Trauma-informed approaches to communicating and understanding needs and boundaries with intimacy, sexuality, kink, gender (and expression), relationships, and more.
  • How to take an intimacy inventory, and how to incorporate the work into your personal growth and development.

This class is suitable for everyone, and is especially geared towards for survivors of trauma, assault, and abuse.

Drawing on her experience as a stiletto enthusiast and a former runway model, Lilithfoxx will teach you how to rock sky-high heels.

Do you think you’re too ____ for high heels?
Are high heels too ___ for you?

If you had any answer to these questions, then this class is for you!

Topics of discussion include:

  • Different types of heels, and how to find quality ones that don’t hurt or cause long-term damage.
  • How to select the right high heel shoe for flat, wide, and narrow feet or high arches.
  • Walking on different surfaces including loose gravel, grass, slippery floors, and more.
  • Standing, walking, climbing stairs, dancing and running comfortably on just about any surface while wearing heels.
  • “Damage control” for aching feet, blisters, skinned ankles, and other hiccups while wearing heels.
  • How to wear high heels comfortably for long periods of time.

This class is open to anyone of all genders and identities who wants to learn how to strut their stuff in sky-high heels and never say no to the stiletto again!

Putting an external condom on during intimacy does not have to be awkward or interrupt intimacy. In fact, it can enhance the pleasure and experience.

It’s time to make safer sex sexier! Changing the perspective and destigmatizing safer sex encourages open communication, consent, and trust between sexual partners. In this class, you’ll learn:

  • How safer sex is an extension of consent – and why consent is sexy!
  • Destigmatized and medically accurate safer sex discussions.
  • How to negotiate safer sex in a destigmatized and pleasure-focused way.
  • Best practices for external condom use on sex toys, and during oral, anal, vaginal penetration.
  • How to put an external condom on your partner using only your mouth.
  • How to put an external condom on yourself while continuing foreplay and intimacy.

This workshop does not contain nudity or live body demos. Dildos and sex toys will be used and demonstrated on to show techniques for external condom use. All genders and relationship configurations (or lack thereof) welcome.

This class is a dynamic and open discussion of how to blend any combination of power exchange authority transfer dynamics, long distance, and polyamory.

Attendees will have the opportunity to ask questions and learn strategies for healthy communication in relationships of all configurations.

This class is customized to the experience of the room. An informal class poll for questions and topics sets the direction and tone of the class. As such, no two classes will be the same. This leads to a very adaptive and engaging class. This workshop is ideally presented live – where attendees can interact with the presenter. This can be done virtually in a live video call, or in person. If a more structured class or asynchronous class is preferred, please look into any of the other classes.

Class List

Social media marketing is complicated enough without the added risks and censorship that adult-oriented brands face. So, how do you market yourself when you’re constantly at risk of account deletion and censorship? 

Lilithfoxx will draw on her years of experience in senior-level marketing for Fortune 500 companies to help you build a low-risk, high-reward social media strategy that works FOR you, not the other way around.

In this class, you’ll learn:

  • FOSTA/SESTA – an overview of how it impacts adult-oriented brands and their marketing.
  • Social media platforms – which ones to use, how their algorithms work, and how they target and enforce bans.
  • Content creation, optimizing your workflows, and automating the tasks that suck.
  • When to post, how to post, hashtag strategies and best practices specific to your brand and target audience.

This workshop is geared towards kink and adult-oriented brands, but is suitable for businesses and brands of all types. Concepts covered are applicable to brands of any industry.

This class will teach actionable steps to create safer spaces for BIPOC – because a diversity statement isn’t enough.

This class is taught alongside NordStar, an internationally licensed professional mental health practitioner with over a decade of experience in organizational psychology. Lilithfoxx and NordStar first presented this class as a Non-black POC panel in 2020, and have restructured the class to be taught by NordStar and LilithFoxx collaboratively. Since then, several dungeons around the world have utilized what they learned in the class to create safer and more inclusive spaces for BIPOC folx in their communities. Lilith and Nord share a passion for service and education to the community. They have dedicated their time, personal, and professional experiences to promoting inclusivity for BIPOC folx in the global kink community.

Personal experiences may be shared, however the primary goal is teaching attendees what specifically they can do NOW in their communities to create positive change.

When it comes to kink negotiations, neurodiversity yields some unique challenges.

This class will discuss ways to negotiate play and dynamics with neurodiversity in mind! Lilith draws on her personal experience as a queer POC cis-woman with ADHD and trauma to teach you tips and tricks for negotiating play and communicating limits in ways that work with neurodiversity, not against it.

  • How neurodiversity impacts communication and negotiations – and why just talking about it doesn’t always work.
  • Adapting your negotiations and communication methods to be inclusive of neurodivergent folx – including written negotiations.
  • Bridging the gap between written and verbal communication.
  • Non-verbal communication methods and cues to look out for before, during, and after play.
  • How to support neurodivergent partners during scenes and negotiations.
  • How to ask for support as a neurodivergent person from neurotypicals or different flavors of “neurospicy”.

This class is suitable for anyone – regardless of whether they are neurodivergent or have a partner who is.

No matter your level of experience with non-monogamy, “The Relationship Escalator” is bound to sneak up on you a time or two! But what if that’s not a bad thing?

Lilithfoxx has been a Non-hierarchal, Relationship Anarchist, Switchy Polyam for the better part of a decade. She’ll teach you how to avoid the fuckups and reframe The Escalator as a way to strengthen and build your non-monogamous relationships to stand the test of time.

Topics of discussion include:

  • “The Relationship Escalator” (TRE) –  what it is, how it can be problematic, and its unexpected perks.
  • How TRE can hide in plain sight and look different based on a number of factors – including kink, social and power differentials.
  • Setting goals in relationships and dynamics that are authentic to you and your partner(s).
  • Using TRE as a catalyst for positive change in relationships and communication.

This class is suitable for anyone, regardless of relationship orientation. Attendees will learn healthy ways to communicate needs and build relationships that are applicable to all styles of love and relationships.

This class takes a realistic approach to making long-distance dynamics work (or not).

This class is part 1 of a 2 part series on long-distance PE/AT dynamics. Each class will holistically discuss all of the topics, but will go into more specifics depending on the part.

Has work or life distanced you from your partner? It can be difficult to figure out how to strengthen and maintain a PE/AT dynamic when you’re separated by schedules, zip codes, or time zones. How often do you see each other? How do you play long distance? Will things ever be the same? Do you call it quits?

We’ll discuss ways to restructure and reframe your dynamic with the intentionality for mutual fulfillment. Topics of discussion include:

  • Developing long-term relationship longevity strategies.
  • Setting realistic time frames for visits and mitigating the drop after you leave.
  • Ways to play long distance that are equally sexy and satisfying.
  • Coping with “FOMO” of new play partners and events that you or your partner can’t attend together.
  • Creating realistic and kind exit-strategies for if the relationship isn’t working.

This class suitable for everyone – regardless of whether they’re in a long-distance PE/AT dynamic – as it will cover more nuanced and dynamic ways of communicating and negotiating with your partners.

This class takes a realistic approach to making long-distance dynamics work (or not).

This class is part 2 of a 2 part series on long-distance PE/AT dynamics. Each class will holistically discuss all of the topics, but will go into more specifics depending on the part.

Has work or life distanced you from your partner? It can be difficult to figure out how to strengthen and maintain a PE/AT dynamic when you’re separated by schedules, zip codes, or time zones. Do you remove protocols, change them, or add new ones? How do you do any of that without compromising the foundation your relationship was built on?

We’ll specifically discuss ways to restructure and reframe protocols and rituals with intentionality. Topics of discussion include:

  • Adapting existing protocols and creating new ones.
  • Navigating being part of different communities – together and separately.
  • Creating new strategies for differing levels of protocol for long distance and when you’re alone in a new community.
  • Ways to play and adhere to rituals and protocols long distance that are equally sexy and satisfying.

This class suitable for everyone – regardless of whether they’re in a long-distance PE/AT dynamic – as it will cover more nuanced and dynamic ways of communicating and negotiating with your partners.

In the context and presence of play, sexuality, and intimacy, it can be difficult to articulate exactly what your boundaries and desires are; You leave a lot to assumption, hormones, and trauma-responses. 

Is what you’re “consenting” to in the moment what you actually want? In this class, you’ll learn to complete an “intimacy inventory” that will help you have this conversation first and foremost with yourself. This trauma-informed approach to determining your needs and wants is applicable to intimacy, sexuality, kink, gender, relationships, and more!

Topics of discussion include:

  • Why negotiating or communicating boundaries mid-scene or in the moment can be problematic.
  • How to communicate effectively and avoid assumptions of understanding.
  • Trauma-responses, social and other factors that may compromise consent and effective communication.
  • Trauma-informed approaches to communicating and understanding needs and boundaries with intimacy, sexuality, kink, gender (and expression), relationships, and more.
  • How to take an intimacy inventory, and how to incorporate the work into your personal growth and development.

This class is suitable for everyone, and is especially geared towards for survivors of trauma, assault, and abuse.

Drawing on her experience as a stiletto enthusiast and a former runway model, Lilithfoxx will teach you how to rock sky-high heels.

Do you think you’re too ____ for high heels?
Are high heels too ___ for you?

If you had any answer to these questions, then this class is for you!

Topics of discussion include:

  • Different types of heels, and how to find quality ones that don’t hurt or cause long-term damage.
  • How to select the right high heel shoe for flat, wide, and narrow feet or high arches.
  • Walking on different surfaces including loose gravel, grass, slippery floors, and more.
  • Standing, walking, climbing stairs, dancing and running comfortably on just about any surface while wearing heels.
  • “Damage control” for aching feet, blisters, skinned ankles, and other hiccups while wearing heels.
  • How to wear high heels comfortably for long periods of time.

This class is open to anyone of all genders and identities who wants to learn how to strut their stuff in sky-high heels and never say no to the stiletto again!

Putting an external condom on during intimacy does not have to be awkward or interrupt intimacy. In fact, it can enhance the pleasure and experience.

It’s time to make safer sex sexier! Changing the perspective and destigmatizing safer sex encourages open communication, consent, and trust between sexual partners. In this class, you’ll learn:

  • How safer sex is an extension of consent – and why consent is sexy!
  • Destigmatized and medically accurate safer sex discussions.
  • How to negotiate safer sex in a destigmatized and pleasure-focused way.
  • Best practices for external condom use on sex toys, and during oral, anal, vaginal penetration.
  • How to put an external condom on your partner using only your mouth.
  • How to put an external condom on yourself while continuing foreplay and intimacy.

This workshop does not contain nudity or live body demos. Dildos and sex toys will be used and demonstrated on to show techniques for external condom use. All genders and relationship configurations (or lack thereof) welcome.

This class is a dynamic and open discussion of how to blend any combination of power exchange authority transfer dynamics, long distance, and polyamory.

Attendees will have the opportunity to ask questions and learn strategies for healthy communication in relationships of all configurations.

This class is customized to the experience of the room. An informal class poll for questions and topics sets the direction and tone of the class. As such, no two classes will be the same. This leads to a very adaptive and engaging class. This workshop is ideally presented live – where attendees can interact with the presenter. This can be done virtually in a live video call, or in person. If a more structured class or asynchronous class is preferred, please look into any of the other classes.

"Lilith is an impudent, shameless, morally-unrestrained raven-haired jezebel!"

This was the best “insult” that I have ever received.

I realized then that my place and validity to take up space in alternative sexuality communities was going to be as challenged as my place in vanilla ones. White supremacy takes no vacations.

I decided to dedicate my skills and resources to continuing my education, with the goal of promoting inclusivity wherever I go. 

I have had the privilege of working alongside and collaborating with phenomenal teachers. Though I will always have more to learn, there is certainly a lot that I can teach along the way as well. 

Lilithfoxx logo signature.
A drawing of Lilithfoxx from the chest up. She is wearing a black lace corset and fish nets, while smiling and winking.
1
Years of
Experience

"Lilith is an impudent, shameless, morally-unrestrained raven-haired jezebel!"

This was the best “insult” that I have ever received.

I realized then that my place and validity to take up space in alternative sexuality communities was going to be as challenged as my place in vanilla ones. White supremacy takes no vacations.

I decided to dedicate my skills and resources to continuing my education, with the goal of promoting inclusivity wherever I go. 

I have had the privilege of working alongside and collaborating with phenomenal teachers. Though I will always have more to learn, there is certainly a lot that I can teach along the way as well. 

Lilithfoxx logo signature.
A drawing of Lilithfoxx from the chest up. She is wearing a black lace corset and fish nets, while smiling and winking.
1
Years of
Experience

Got a question, or need a custom solution?

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a custom solution?

Contact Lilithfoxx for custom workshops, services, and organizational consent and inclusivity consulting!

Got a question, or need a custom solution?

Contact Lilithfoxx for custom workshops, services, and organizational consent and inclusivity consulting!

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