Community Classes & Workshops

View Lilith’s community workshop list below. She is available for workshop presentations, lectures, keynotes, and organizational consulting. For custom solutions and collaborations, please contact Lilithfoxx directly!

Authentic BIPOC allyship in the kink community takes more than just a diversity statement.

In kink and alternative sexuality spaces, the illusion of acceptance often masks a harsh reality for BIPOC individuals. Hidden biases, microaggressions, and systems of oppression persist, marring what should be a liberating experience. Diversity statements, without concrete action and accountability, perpetuate a cycle of performative allyship. Led by Lilithfoxx, a BIPOC, Queer, neurodivergent DEIB consultant, this workshop aims to break that cycle and provide actionable steps for creating authentic community inclusion. Participants will cultivate communication skills that encourage empathy, understanding, and genuine connection, and construct environments that actively celebrate and support BIPOC kinksters.

Class Skill Level: All
Class Format: Lecture with audio/video presentation
Participant Materials: None

Equipment/Room Needs:

  1. Classroom seating
  2. Projection screen and projector
  3. Table for projector and laptop
  4. Extension cord

Navigating consent in BDSM dynamics is a nuanced conversation, and cannabis use adds an additional layer of complexity.

As cannabis use (THC and CBD) becomes more normalized, understanding its impact on consent within kink and BDSM dynamics and play is vital. Led by Board-certified sexologist Lilithfoxx, this workshop delves into the unique considerations that arise when cannabis is present in BDSM and kink situations. Participants will learn strategies for discussing preferences and consent beforehand, mitigating risks, recognizing how cannabis might affect consent communication, and staying aware of nonverbal cues and intoxication levels. The insights and tools provided will foster healthy, consensual connections in scenarios where cannabis is part of the equation.

Class Skill Level: All
Class Format: Lecture with audio/video presentation
Participant Materials: None

Equipment/Room Needs:

  1. Classroom seating
  2. Projection screen and projector
  3. Table for projector and laptop
  4. Extension cord

Negotiating limits is crucial when crafting scenes, but the process doesn’t have to be dull or overwhelming!

Setting boundaries can actually be exciting and arousing – building erotic tension and intimacy in scenes. We’ll discusses tips for prioritizing consent and mindfulness, while still building the anticipation for pleasure, adapting negotiation to suit different partners and scenarios, and respecting power and authority dynamics. Let’s transform your negotiation to scene foreplay, and make consent actually sexy!

Class Skill Level: All
Class Format: Lecture with audio/video presentation
Participant Materials: None

Equipment/Room Needs:

  1. Classroom seating
  2. Projection screen and projector
  3. Table for projector and laptop
  4. Extension cord

When it comes to negotiating play, neurodiversity yields some unique challenges.

This class discusses trauma-informed and mindful ways to negotiate play and dynamics – with neurodiversity in mind! We’ll cover tips and tricks for adapting consent dialogues and check-ins to be “neurospicy-friendly”, including non-verbal communication, sensory considerations, and how to communicate needs and desires. This class is suitable for anyone, whether they are neurodivergent or have a partner who is.

Topics of discussion include:

  • How neurodiversity impacts communication and negotiations – and why just talking about it doesn’t always work.
  • Adapting your negotiations and communication methods to be inclusive of neurodivergent folx – including written negotiations.
  • Bridging the gap between written and verbal communication.
  • Non-verbal communication methods and cues to look out for before, during, and after play.
  • How to support neurodivergent partners during scenes and negotiations.
  • How to ask for support as a neurodivergent person from neurotypicals or different flavors of “neurospicy”.

Class Skill Level: All
Class Format: Lecture with audio/video presentation
Participant Materials: None

Equipment/Room Needs:

  1. Classroom seating
  2. Projection screen and projector
  3. Table for projector and laptop
  4. Extension cord

This class takes a realistic approach to making long-distance dynamics work (or not).

Long distance dynamics are difficult, and adding power/authority gets even harder! Whether you’re separated by schedules or continents, it can be difficult to maintain your dynamic, let alone build it. In this class, we’ll delve into strategies for long distance dynamic longevity, including virtual play tips, handling the feels and “FOMO” of separate communities, and building kind exit strategies. 

Topics of discussion include:

  • Developing long-term relationship longevity strategies.
  • Setting realistic time frames for visits and mitigating the drop after you leave.
  • Ways to play long distance that are equally sexy and satisfying.
  • Coping with “FOMO” of new play partners and events that you or your partner can’t attend together.
  • Creating realistic and kind exit-strategies for if the relationship isn’t working.

This class is part 1 of a 2 part series on long-distance PE/AT dynamics. Each class will holistically discuss all of the topics, but will go into more specifics depending on the part.

Class Skill Level: All
Class Format: Lecture with audio/video presentation
Participant Materials: None

Equipment/Room Needs:

  1. Classroom seating
  2. Projection screen and projector
  3. Table for projector and laptop
  4. Extension cord

This class takes a realistic approach to making long-distance dynamics work (or not).

When life’s demands separate you, how do you adapt protocols without shaking the relationship’s core? We’ll explore adjusting existing protocols, balancing participation in diverse communities, strategizing varied protocol levels, and engaging in long-distance rituals. Beyond just long-distance dynamics, this course sharpens everyone’s skills in advanced communication and negotiation with partners.

Topics of discussion include:

  • Adapting existing protocols and creating new ones.
  • Navigating being part of different communities – together and separately.
  • Creating new strategies for differing levels of protocol for long distance and when you’re alone in a new community.
  • Ways to play and adhere to rituals and protocols long distance that are equally sexy and satisfying.

This class is part 2 of a 2 part series on long-distance PE/AT dynamics. Each class will holistically discuss all of the topics, but will go into more specifics depending on the part.

Class Skill Level: All
Class Format: Lecture with audio/video presentation
Participant Materials: None

Equipment/Room Needs:

  1. Classroom seating
  2. Projection screen and projector
  3. Table for projector and laptop
  4. Extension cord

Learn alternative marketing tactics for sex-positive professionals, without the risks and labor of social media. Discover strategies for email and search engine optimization to diversify your marketing channels, while staying compliant with advertising regulations. Market your services more effectively and efficiently.

Class Skill Level: All
Class Format: Lecture with audio/video presentation
Participant Materials: None

Equipment/Room Needs:

  1. Classroom seating
  2. Projection screen and projector
  3. Table for projector and laptop
  4. Extension cord

Social media marketing is complicated enough without the added risks and censorship that adult-oriented brands face. So, how do you market yourself when you’re constantly at risk of account deletion and censorship? 

Lilithfoxx will draw on her years of experience in senior-level marketing for Fortune 500 companies to help you build a low-risk, high-reward social media strategy that works FOR you, not the other way around. In this class, you’ll learn:

  • FOSTA/SESTA – an overview of how it impacts adult-oriented brands and their marketing.
  • Social media platforms – which ones to use, how their algorithms work, and how they target and enforce bans.
  • Content creation, optimizing your workflows, and automating the tasks that suck.
  • When to post, how to post, hashtag strategies and best practices specific to your brand and target audience.

This workshop is geared towards kink and adult-oriented brands, but is suitable for businesses and brands of all types. Concepts covered are applicable to brands of any industry.

Class Skill Level: All
Class Format: Lecture with audio/video presentation
Participant Materials: None

Equipment/Room Needs:

  1. Classroom seating
  2. Projection screen and projector
  3. Table for projector and laptop
  4. Extension cord

Do you find yourself curious to try new kinks and intimate experiences, but unsure of what to try, where to start, who to talk to, or how to find safe and experienced play partners? In this class, we’ll discuss ways to safely explore new kinks while building informed consent for play. We’ll also cover vetting play partners and finding community to create fun and supportive spaces to indulge your kinky desires!

Topics of discussion include:

  • The importance of communication and informed consent in sexual exploration
  • Strategies for building trust and establishing boundaries with partners
  • How to identify and research new sexual activities or kinks
  • Assessing risk and safety considerations when trying something new
  • Creative ways to incorporate new pleasures and experiences into your sexual repertoire
  • Managing emotions and expectations when exploring new sexual experiences
  • Resources and support for continuing your sexual exploration journey

Class Skill Level: All
Class Format: Lecture with audio/video presentation
Participant Materials: None

Equipment/Room Needs:

  1. Classroom seating
  2. Projection screen and projector
  3. Table for projector and laptop
  4. Extension cord

No matter your level of experience with non-monogamy, “The Relationship Escalator” is bound to sneak up on you a time or two! But what if that’s not a bad thing?

Lilithfoxx has been a Non-hierarchal, Relationship Anarchist, Switchy Polyam for the better part of a decade. She’ll teach you how to avoid the fuckups and reframe The Escalator as a way to strengthen and build your non-monogamous relationships to stand the test of time. Topics of discussion include:

  • “The Relationship Escalator” (TRE) –  what it is, how it can be problematic, and its unexpected perks.
  • How TRE can hide in plain sight and look different based on a number of factors – including kink, social and power differentials.
  • Setting goals in relationships and dynamics that are authentic to you and your partner(s).
  • Using TRE as a catalyst for positive change in relationships and communication.

This class is suitable for anyone, regardless of relationship orientation. Attendees will learn healthy ways to communicate needs and build relationships that are applicable to all styles of love and relationships.

Class Skill Level: All
Class Format: Lecture with audio/video presentation
Participant Materials: None

Equipment/Room Needs:

  1. Classroom seating
  2. Projection screen and projector
  3. Table for projector and laptop
  4. Extension cord

In the context and presence of play, sexuality, and intimacy, it can be difficult to articulate exactly what your boundaries and desires are; You leave a lot to assumption, hormones, and trauma-responses. 

Is what you’re “consenting” to in the moment what you actually want? In this class, you’ll learn to complete an “intimacy inventory” that will help you have this conversation first and foremost with yourself. This trauma-informed approach to determining your needs and wants is applicable to intimacy, sexuality, kink, gender, relationships, and more! Topics of discussion include:

  • Why negotiating or communicating boundaries mid-scene or in the moment can be problematic.
  • How to communicate effectively and avoid assumptions of understanding.
  • Trauma-responses, social and other factors that may compromise consent and effective communication.
  • Trauma-informed approaches to communicating and understanding needs and boundaries with intimacy, sexuality, kink, gender (and expression), relationships, and more.
  • How to take an intimacy inventory, and how to incorporate the work into your personal growth and development.

This class is suitable for everyone, and is especially geared towards for survivors of trauma, assault, and abuse.

Class Skill Level: All
Class Format: Lecture with audio/video presentation
Participant Materials: None

Equipment/Room Needs:

  1. Classroom seating
  2. Projection screen and projector
  3. Table for projector and laptop
  4. Extension cord

Academia, Research, Clinical

Are you an educational institution, researcher, or care provider?

View Lilith’s academic workshops, or contact her for custom solutions!

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