Description

Unf*ck Your Relationship Escalator: (Re)Building Healthy Relationship Foundations challenges the idea that successful relationships must follow a predetermined path of dating, exclusivity, cohabitation, marriage, and other traditional milestones. In this educational class, Board-Certified Sexologist and AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator Lilithfoxx examines how societal expectations, relationship norms, and unspoken assumptions influence the way we approach intimacy, commitment, and partnership, including within BDSM and kink dynamics. From traditional relationship milestones to the expectations surrounding Dominant/submissive relationships, collaring, and power exchange, this class explores how the relationship escalator can shape our perceptions of what a meaningful or successful connection should look like. Whether you’re practicing monogamy, consensual non-monogamy, or navigating alternative relationship structures, you’ll learn practical strategies for building relationships that reflect your values rather than following a prescribed path.

Features:

• Understanding the Relationship Escalator: Examine the traditional milestones society often associates with relationship success, including exclusivity, cohabitation, marriage, and shared finances, and how these expectations shape our understanding of commitment and intimacy.
• Recognizing the Relationship Escalator in Kink: Explore how conventional relationship expectations can appear within BDSM and power exchange dynamics, including assumptions about collaring, ownership, service, protocol, and the progression from casual play to more formalized D/s relationships.
• Challenging Hierarchies and Relationship Assumptions: Examine how certain relationship structures, labels, and milestones become associated with greater legitimacy or commitment, and how these assumptions can influence both conventional and alternative relationships.
• Identifying Your Relationship Values and Needs: Develop a clearer understanding of your personal priorities, boundaries, emotional needs, and relationship goals while distinguishing authentic desires from societal or community expectations.
• Building Healthy Relationship Foundations: Learn strategies for cultivating trust, emotional safety, mutual respect, accountability, autonomy, and effective communication across different relationship structures and power dynamics.
• Negotiating Agreements and Power Dynamics: Explore how to establish intentional agreements around commitment, intimacy, authority, responsibility, and expectations while recognizing that negotiated power exchange does not eliminate the need for ongoing consent and personal autonomy.
• Rebuilding and Redefining Existing Relationships: Discover approaches to questioning established expectations, renegotiating agreements, addressing unmet needs, and adapting relationship structures as individuals and partnerships evolve.

Whether you’re navigating a traditional partnership, practicing consensual non-monogamy, participating in BDSM, or questioning what commitment means to you, Unf*ck Your Relationship Escalator offers an inclusive framework for approaching relationships with greater intention and authenticity. You’ll leave with practical tools for recognizing unhelpful expectations, communicating your needs, and creating relationships that prioritize compatibility, consent, and mutual fulfillment over predetermined milestones. After all, a relationship doesn’t have to follow a particular script, reach a certain milestone, or fit someone else’s definition of commitment to be meaningful.

This program meets the requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and each session is approved for 2 CE credits. These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of certification. However, completion of this program does not ensure or guarantee AASECT certification. For further information please contact Lilith@LilithFoxx.com.