Description

What Do I Really Want? Taking an Intimacy Inventory offers a trauma-informed approach to understanding your desires, identifying your boundaries, and developing greater confidence in communicating your needs within sexuality, kink, and intimate relationships. In this educational class, Board-Certified Sexologist and AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator Lilithfoxx introduces the intimacy inventory as a practical tool for self-reflection, consent negotiation, and personal empowerment. Through guided introspection and accessible communication strategies, participants will examine how personal experiences, social conditioning, trauma, and relationship dynamics can influence their understanding of what they genuinely want. With particular consideration for survivors of trauma, assault, and abuse, this class provides a compassionate framework for recognizing individual needs, navigating complex emotional responses, and making more intentional choices about intimacy without pressure, judgment, or expectations.

Features:

• Understanding the Intimacy Inventory: Learn how to conduct a personal intimacy inventory to identify your desires, needs, boundaries, preferences, and expectations across sexual, emotional, physical, and relational experiences.
• Distinguishing Wants, Needs, and Boundaries: Explore the differences between genuine desires, personal needs, hard and soft limits, and expectations shaped by others, helping you develop greater clarity about what feels authentic and fulfilling.
• Exploring Desire Through a Trauma-Informed Lens: Examine how past experiences, trauma, social conditioning, and internalized beliefs can influence your relationship with intimacy, including how to approach self-reflection without shame, pressure, or forced disclosure.
• Recognizing Trauma Responses and Protective Patterns: Develop awareness of how responses such as fight, flight, freeze, fawn, and dissociation may influence intimate interactions, boundary setting, and the ability to communicate desires or discomfort.
• Establishing Boundaries Before Intimate Experiences: Learn practical strategies for identifying and communicating boundaries proactively, including anticipating potential triggers, discussing accommodations, and creating agreements before engaging in sexual or kinky activities.
• Navigating Consent and Personal Autonomy: Explore how self-awareness supports informed, ongoing consent while examining the importance of recognizing uncertainty, honoring changing boundaries, and understanding that consent should never depend on overcoming discomfort or prioritizing another person’s expectations.
• Communicating Desires and Negotiating Intimacy: Develop practical skills for expressing wants, needs, limits, and concerns with partners, including strategies for navigating vulnerable conversations, differing preferences, and situations where direct communication may feel difficult.
• Recognizing Patterns in Intimate Relationships: Examine how people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, fear of rejection, and learned relationship dynamics can influence intimate decision-making while developing strategies for responding more intentionally.
• Creating More Intentional and Fulfilling Connections: Learn how to use the insights from your intimacy inventory to approach future interactions with greater clarity, establish healthier agreements, and build connections grounded in authenticity, mutual respect, and personal agency.

Whether you’re looking to better understand your desires, establish stronger boundaries, navigate intimacy after difficult experiences, or become more confident in negotiating sexual and kinky interactions, What Do I Really Want? Taking an Intimacy Inventory provides a supportive framework for developing self-awareness and meaningful communication skills. You’ll leave with practical tools for identifying what you want, recognizing what you don’t, and communicating both with greater confidence and compassion. Particularly valuable for survivors of trauma, assault, and abuse, this class emphasizes that discovering your desires is not about pushing past your boundaries or forcing yourself to engage in uncomfortable experiences. It’s about developing the self-understanding and autonomy to make choices that genuinely reflect your needs, values, and capacity for intimacy.

This program meets the requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and each session is approved for 2 CE credits. These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of certification. However, completion of this program does not ensure or guarantee AASECT certification. For further information please contact Lilith@LilithFoxx.com.