Your first BDSM experience can feel like a strange combination of exciting, intimidating, sexy, and slightly overwhelming. You may have spent months thinking about a particular fantasy, recently discovered that
Originally published June 15, 2024, updated September 3, 2026 Dominance can involve authority, responsibility, creativity, eroticism, leadership, service, care, control, or some combination of all of these. What being a
Curiosity is one of the most enjoyable parts of sexuality. You may discover an activity in a book that immediately grabs your attention, hear someone describe a dynamic you had
A class is only useful if people can actually access the information being taught. That principle shapes my accessibility-first approach to sexuality education, BDSM classes, professional trainings, and workshops. Rather
Talking about sex can be surprisingly difficult, even with someone you trust. You may know that you want to explore more together but struggle to name specific desires. You may
If you are new to BDSM, you may have heard people discussing what happens before and during a scene much more often than what happens afterward. Negotiation, safewords, restraints, impact
Originally published April 15, 2024, updated September 2, 2026 Submission can mean very different things depending on the person. For some people, it is something they enjoy during a scene.
Coconut oil seems like it should be an easy solution when you need lubricant. It is inexpensive, widely available, slippery, and lasts much longer than many water-based products. That combination
If you have ever wondered, “is squirt pee?” you have probably encountered wildly different answers. Pornography often presents squirting as a dramatic sign of orgasm, social media tends to split